That Thing Where You Feel Forced To Choose Either Silver Or Gold For Life

It was impressed on me at a young age that serious jewellery-wearers either wear gold or silver. Being a fan of furry jewellery myself, I had a hard time picking, but it seemed that cool girls wore silver. So, I had a silver ball-chain choker and a pair of silver smiley-face stud earrings. I chose a silver class ring, and when it came time to pick out my very first piece of "real" jewellery when I started college, I picked a silver Elsa Perreti for Tiffany necklace.
But then, I moved to New York, and it seemed like every cool-looking woman had a gold chain around her neck, gold hoops in her ears, and stacks of gold rings on her fingers. And so, I switched (that ball chain was starting to look more black than silver anyway). I wore my gold initial necklace and gold circle studs dutifully, until one day, I came across a ring that actually made me feel nauseous because it was so pretty. It had two half-circle sapphires surrounded by a halo of diamonds — like The Heart Of The Ocean, but Margiela-ised. It was the most beautiful ring I've ever seen, and I wanted it more than I wanted any single piece of fashion in my life. But, I hesitated. Because it was silver.

Which, of course, is all so, so stupid, because of course there's no such thing where you have to be a "silver girl" or a "gold girl," and the idea that you have to choose a team is as ludicrous as only eating sausage breakfast sandwiches when you could eat bacon sandwiches, too (or both together in the same sandwich!). But Google "are you a gold or a silver person" and you'll get 63,600,000 results trying to parse the personalities of either side. And in my job, "mixing metals" somehow always gets parsed as a dangerous style move.

Long story short, I wear that silver ring now every day, and I wear it with my rose-gold watch, and my yellow-gold necklace, and I might even pair it all with a gunmetal clutch this holiday season. In the spirit of not letting a style rule as dumb as gold vs. silver hinder your ability to live, we're showcasing a few women who've already diversified.

More from Trends


R29 Original Series

Watch Now
A look at the subcultures around the world that color what we wear — and why.
Watch Now
Explore the world's most most vibrant cultural and culinary centers—in 60 seconds, of course.
Watch Now
The craziest trends, most unique treatments, and strangest subcultures in the beauty world.
Watch Now
Millennial survivor-woman Lucie Fink dives headfirst into social experiments, 5 days at a time.