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Standing Sex Positions That Will Take Your Sex Life To New Heights

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    One evening at a particularly raunchy dance party in Brooklyn, my partner and I realized that we just couldn’t wait to make it back to either of our bedrooms. In a horny frenzy, we scanned our surroundings for a private area outdoors, and wandered into a parking lot full of trucks. After we hastily scrambled between a concrete wall and the front of an 18-wheeler and pulled our pants down just enough, I flopped forwards onto the hood of the truck, grabbing the side mirrors to brace myself. What ensued was some of the hottest, naughtiest-feeling sex of my life — it was so sudden and out of the ordinary, it felt like a scene out of a movie.

    I’m usually a total bottom and generally stick to a finite set of dependably-orgasmic (and horizontal) sex positions. But during vertical sex, I’m much more active, and usually have to engage my muscles (especially my pelvic floor) in ways that in-bed sex doesn’t usually require. And personally, getting all that blood pumping can make it easier for me to orgasm. Afterwards, I find myself adorably sweaty, flushed, blissed out, and often ready to pass out. But while upright sex can seem daunting, or more trouble than it’s worth, it can actually create more possibilities for intimacy.

    “Being able to have sex standing up not only adds variety [to] one’s sex life, but also provides options for spontaneity, especially in tight spaces,” Madeleine Castellanos, MD, functional medicine physician and sex therapist, tells me (and considering how much I loved my truck-yard experience, I couldn’t agree more).

    “Adding surprise to our sexual repertoire also re-stimulates dopamine receptors in the brain,” says sex coach Patti Britton, MD. “These are one of the many neurotransmitters responsible for lust.”

    Obviously, I had to find out more ways I could work standing sex into my repertoire. But as I researched sex positions, I had trouble finding a guide that was inclusive of gender and had variations accommodating a wide range of physical abilities — standing sex can be quite the workout. Most traditional guides describe sexual roles for the “man” and the “woman,” but I knew that all of these positions could be enjoyed regardless of genitals.

    So I enlisted a few sexperts (like Dr. Castellanos and Dr. Britton) to help me round up the best standing sex positions. In this guide, I’ve indicated the “giver” as the more active partner, the one doing the penetrating — but of course, the penetrative positions for the “giver” can be performed with a penis or a strap-on. (Strap-ons are actually advantageous, since you can rotate the dildo to find the most comfortable position for each partner.) Conversely, the “receiver” is the more passive partner, the one being penetrated either vaginally or anally (although you will need to be more delicate in these positions if you are using them for anal).

    Ahead, my favourite standing sex positions. Trust me when I say these will bring your sex life to new heights.




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    Fire Hydrant

    In this position, the receiver stands as the giver kneels or sits below them and performs oral sex.

    “Standing helps a person feel sexy and powerful,” says Dr. Castellanos, adding that “letting your partner kiss and caress your whole body up and down” as you stand can make the experience even sexier.

    It’s so true — if I’m giving a blowjob in this position, I love having both of my hands free to wrap around my partner’s thighs or reach up and grab at his chest. Even though we aren’t face-to-face, this can be an incredibly sensual pose.

    As the receiver of this position, I also love the beautiful aerial view of my partner’s face buried in my crotch. Pro tip: The receiver can lean against a wall if standing for long periods of time causes discomfort.

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    Candle

    Ah, one of my favorite poses for tight spaces — the Candle is essentially spooning, or getting fucked from behind, while standing. In this position, the receiver can tighten or loosen how tightly they’re keeping their thighs together in order to control the sensation.

    Additionally, the receiver can lean into a wall for added support — I personally find it incredibly arousing to be confined and smooshed up against a wall, especially in a small shower.

    During my research, I found that this pose seemed to be among the most popular. Dr. Britton says that this could be because it “allows you to have your hands free to kiss and caress your partner’s back and neck.” It’s also a relatively simple position, and allows both partners to be completely upright — not just the giver.

    “It’s more of a cardiovascular workout, and you can have more control over how your body moves with your partner, leading to more pleasure and sensation,” notes Shannon Chavez, MD, a licensed psychologist and sex therapist based in L.A.

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    Narcissus

    Trust me, there’s nothing narcissistic about this pose — it truly is advantageous for both partners. This variation of the Candle pose allows both partners to face the same direction, and if you’re in the bathroom or another room with a mirror, you can watch yourselves. The giver stands behind the receiver and holds one of the receiver’s legs (or alternatively, the receiver can prop their leg up on a chair or set of stairs).

    If you’re the giver, you’ll have the ability to control the pace and rhythm by holding onto their body. As the receiver, you’ll have greater control over the angle of penetration, allowing you to receive as much G-spot/prostate stimulation as you desire.

    “This position works well for toys, because it allows access to reaching your partner both from in front and behind, permitting great stimulation from any angle,” says Dr. Castellanos.

    Pairing this pose with an external vibrator or masturbation sleeve will take the stimulation to a whole new level.

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    Flame

    This position is essentially the face-to-face version of Narcissus, or a vertical variation of the beloved missionary position (admittedly one of my all-time faves). The giver holds one of the receiver’s legs, or the leg can be propped up on a chair. This intimate, penetrative position’s greatest challenge is accommodating height differences, so don’t be afraid to wear heels or utilise stairs if you are the shorter partner.

    Having your bodies in alignment allows you to watch your partner’s face and kiss and caress their body.

    This position can also make it easier to thrust for a longer period of time, which can be more difficult as the top partner with gravity working against you. “Without having to hold up your weight, you can focus more on sensations, feel more relaxed in your body, and have less tension and stress in your muscles,” Dr. Chavez adds.

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    Suspended Congress

    In the most athletic position on this list, partners begin face to face, and the receiver is lifted off the ground by the giver. The receiver uses their arms and legs to wrap around the giver and hold them tight, and both partners use their arms and hips to grind into each other. This one is sure to get you hot and sweaty.

    “This is an intensely erotic position, but does require a significant amount of strength,” says Dr. Castellanos. “You can replicate some great movie sex.”