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A Female Perspective On How It Feels To Give & Receive Oral Sex


Some people feel that oral sex is more intimate than penetrative sex; others feel the opposite. Either way, the act of putting your mouth on a person's genitalia is a delicate and complicated process. In that one moment, you are simultaneously in power and submissive. It all depends on how you look at it.

We asked a few female-identified staff members to talk about what it feels like to receive oral sex — and what they're thinking about when they give oral to their partners.

Are they fully focused on the task at hand? Are they thinking about their to-do lists? Or are they wondering why their vulva seems to be going through a car wash? Watch to find out.